Christmas eve 2009 my friends life changed forever... not long after so did mine.
I remember before the diagnosis speaking with her and talking about the lump.. her youngest child was soon to turn 2 so blocked milk ducts seemed the likely diagnosis.. she is only 37 it couldnt be any thing else....
The results came back and as we had all thought it was just a cyst.. but to err on the safe side she would go for a mamogram, better to be safe than sorry.
Thats when it all went wrong. The lump was a cyst but they had discovered extensive cancer in the milk ducts... 37yr... How...
I had a text message from my sister saying that BF was trying to contact me as i was away with my family for the christmas holidays.. i felt a flash of panic and tried to phone but her phone was engaged so i jumped on to face book and there it was my BF had changed her status to her becoming a cancer survivor... i went numb and walked around in circles. i took a deep breath and tried her phone again... she answered..... i used every ounce of strength in me to stay calm and asked what was going on.. She told me that the diagnosis had changed and she was to go for a biopsy... i wanted to scream. Surely if they had been wrong the first time they could be wrong the second.. please could they be wrong. We talked and we cried... i got off the phone and turned around and my husband pulled up in the car with our children in it... my eldest is her gos son. It just blurted out of my mouth... and the car fell silent.. my husband went to park the car and our friends who were staying with us and also new my BF asked what was up.. i told them Caroline just held me.. she new what i was feeling as her mother is a Breast Cancer Survivor. I was numb. i was helpless. i was heart broken. i couldnt imagine what BF was feeling, or going through, but i new that from that moment my life changed and that i would be by her side for this journey she was about to travel and together with her family and friends she will win this fight. she has to.